One grandchild once complained and said, “Everything I do is always wrong in my grandmother’s eyes”. How do you deal with a situation where it seems that everything you do is always wrong in your leader’s eyes? How do you handle a behavior that you don’t like to those who are superior, or you do not have the ability to scold them? A story is told of a woman who was not happy that her husband come back home very late, she then decided to punish the husband by keeping quiet and become unfriendly. She had hope that her reaction to the situation will make the husband see his mistake and change. Unfortunately, the more she did this, is the more the husband decided to stay away from her. Her reaction was making sure that she was getting the very thing she did not want.
Sometimes our behaviour and actions are the ones sabotaging the very thing we want. We need to evaluate the impact of our behaviours, actions and reactions. Negative reaction might not always yield to great results. Instead of reacting with anger and bitterness to a situation, we need control our emotions and honestly seek for actions we can do that can lead to the results that we desire. Keeping bitterness, and complaining all the time might make you bitter and unpalatable person to everybody around you. Don’t allow situation and circumstances to make you a bitter person, because when you are bitter, even good people will run away from you. Invest in words that rebuild and repair your relationship, instead of continuously reminding people of their wrongs and mistakes.
Isa 5:20-21 Says “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter! (21) Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, and shrewd in their own sight!”
Jas 3:10-12 Says “Out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. (11) Does a fountain send forth at the same hole the sweet and the bitter? (12) Can the fig tree, my brothers, bear olive berries; or a vine, figs? So no fountain can yield both salt water and fresh.”
Invest in words that rebuild and repair relationship. From Simtandile Dlepuma. Stay blessed.