No matter how skilful you are in communication, emotions are emotions. There will be time when you will feel angry, scared, or hurt. How do you restore broken communication when you are angry, scared or hurt? You need to take charge and control your emotions if you are serious about getting what you want the most.
Most of the time, when people are angry, scared or hurt, they put blame for their state of emotions on others. When two people have just fought, each one place the blame on the other, and this may lead to an unending fight and bitterness which sometimes may be disastrous.
When this has just happen you need to take control of yourself by following these steps.
- Observe. What did you see or hear? Be honest about the facts
- Feelings. How did you feel when you saw what you saw or heard what you heard?
- Meaning. How did you interpret what you saw and heard? What meaning did you place to what you observe?
- Action. What did you do and what were your actions after you observed, feel and placed your meaning.
Most of the times conflicts happens because something went wrong in one of the steps. If there was a mistake in what you saw, or heard, which led to your bad feelings, and you placed a wrong meaning to what you saw, that lead to your wrong action. Check again: Are your observation correct, are you correct in feeling the way you do, are you having the correct meaning and are your actions justifiable? Examine yourself and take control of your emotions. Don’t be too quick to act.
Jas 1:19-20 Says “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (20) for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”
2Pe 1:5-7 Says “For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, (6) and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, (7) and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love.”
Take control of your emotions. From Simtandile Dlepuma. Stay blessed.
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