A husband was working outside the house only to find his wife crying bitterly when he got inside. His attempt to try and find out what happen or calm his wife was like making things worse. The wife screamed, “Why are you doing this to me? If I knew I should not have got married to you.” The husband and wife were very happy talking to each other that morning before the husband went out to work in the garden. The wife was shocked when she saw a short message in the husband’s phone which read, “Thank you very much for your love and support during my birth day, Yours Love”. Base on this massage the wife concluded that the husband was cheating, and wanted to divorce him immediately. Only to find that the message had been sent to a wrong number by mistake. What would you do if you were the wife or husband under these circumstances?
Even if you think you know the story, it would help you a lot to verify it before taking four final action. The following steps can help you in dealing with these issues.
- Facts. What did you see or hear? Trace your observation
- Assumptions. What was your understanding of what you saw? What meaning did you place on what you saw or heard?
- Verify your assumption. Ask the person to give you an explanation of what you saw. It might be that what you saw and heard did not have the same meaning that you gave.
- Action. Take an appropriate action base on all the information after verification.
It might help you to run a process of introspection, and examine the process that lead you to the conclusions and actions that you took. Wrong conclusions always lead to wrong actions, you need to work hard in avoiding them. You need to be able to tell the correct story of what happened, before taking actions that may be disastrous.
Pro 16:32 Says “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.”
Tell the correct story. From Simtandile Dlepuma. Stay blessed.