With spoken words, some relationships are built, while other relationships get destroyed. With spoken words, families get built while at the same time spoken words destroy other families. Speech is very powerful such that it can build big institutions, while at the same time it has the power to destroy completely what was once big institutions.
Lack of skill in using your speech might have unintended consequences. You might cause destruction while you wanted to build. You need to learn to control your tongue and use it to achieve your goals. Through what you say you will either attract people to yourself or push them away. You, therefore, need to acquire skills that will help you to use your talk wisely.
See what the scriptures say in James 3:1-12 ESV (1) “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. (2) For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. (3) If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. (4) Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. (5) So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! (6) And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. (7) For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, (8) but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. (9) With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. (10) From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. (11) Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and saltwater? (12) Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water.”